Wanted Perfect Mother
Are you kidding? If they are perfect, then they are not mothers. They are saints. The relationship between a daughter and a mother can be loving or malevolent; harmonious or hostile and sweet or contentious. Let's accept it. Who can be like her, but the daughter and who can be like the mother but her own daughter? There is a little bit of our mother in us, daughter or son. If you feel that it is not easy to to bring up a mother, try looking into these: 1. your mother's purpose If your mother is anxious and controlling, it could be that during your age, she committed a mistake that almost ruined her life. She does not want you to suffer the same fate. 2. don't think that your mother is all-powerful A strong-willed mother may put a facade that may be necessary in order to impress invulnerability during family crises. It would help to know the difficulties that she is experiencing in order to understand that sometimes her short temper has very little to do with you. That inside her bedroom, she is not really the strong woman that you think her to be. Did you remember the time when you notice that it seems you hardly exist to her. This must be the time when her emotional burden was the heaviest. 3. Look for similarities between you and your mother What are her values,fears, political ideas, types of friends, mannerisms, gestures, physical features? Now that you are mother, do you feel the same way when your daughter comes late in the evening or is around with some friends you do not approve? 4. A mother is always a mother Do not think that she feels her responsibility ends when you have a family of your own. Even if she believes that you have your own lives to live, she thinks that it would not hurt if from time to time, she would offer some advice. It is not mother's day but 24 hours is a mother's unpaid workshift. Labels: Reflections |